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I’m ashamed of my filthy mind (help)

Day 13
by Scott
28 upvotes

I’ve tried to quit and relapsed a thousand times but this time feels different very different to before, I’m on 14 day streak and I’m proud of that but my urges won’t go as expected however what I’m afraid of is just my filthy mind - I’ve realised that my biggest trigger is social media and that’s why I’m deleting it because it’s the most tempting thing however recently my urges have gone worse - for some reason now I can fight the urge to masterbate but I still want to watch porn - I feel like social media leads to that. I ended up viewing certain things and my mind now has new fetishes (when they say the longer u watch porn the stronger more extreme fetishes u might end up enjoying because regular stuff doesn’t satisfy that much, I never had that issue when I used to watch and jerk off but now I feel like this has come about recently for me because since I’ve quit I can’t stop thinking about porn and social media has led me to other fetishes). Now maybe this is because I’m so tempted that I’m a bit more sensitive so that’s leading me to being turned on by more things now. For the record I didn’t relapse but I’m not proud to say this I ended up back online viewing these new fetishes that I have…. However I didn’t masterbate even tho I wanted to I found it easy to resist but the issue is I kept watching and looking for more then I snapped back to reality and closed everything and went to take a shower. I’m not afraid of relapsing right now because even though I confidently fought the urge to masterbate however I’m afraid that I’ve now gained these new fetishes that I never had before and I’m afraid that might lead me back to relapsing later or these fetishes might stay with me and I’ve never ever had them before. I should have deleted my social media long ago. I’m afraid that my mind won’t get clean and it’ll always be filthy and thinking of porn. What’s the point of quitting and becoming physically clean if I’m not mentally clean 🤦🏻‍♂️ I hate thinking of filth and I want to be mentally clean.

Comments (13)
Scott158d ago

Man I really appreciate all these responses thank u guys 🙏🏼💯 God bless u all. Mentally I was more afraid of having a consistently filthy mind and just developing fetishes because of how down bad I’ve been. At first I thought that the biggest challenge would be resisting the physical temptation but now it’s the mental battle too. But I do have hope I know I can do it and I know everyone else can too. My biggest hope is it have a clean mind one that doesn’t think about all that filth bullshit and instead is focused on healthy and good things.

Adrian158d ago

I feel you on this. The perverted mindset that’s developed over time is hard to change. But just gotta stick through with it and hope that it does. Or even if it doesn’t, at least learn to live with it in a healthy way.

Alex G158d ago

By nature we’re naturally gonna wanna sin, cuz we get that from Adam and Eve. Lust is always gonna be there, but the urges will be super low where it’ll be easy to control or you won’t have them at all. Everyone’s recovery length is different it depends how long you’ve been hooked. Generally everyone breaks free at the 90 day mark, but at 30 days it’s easier. This journey is not easy and it’s highly reserved for the determined and disciplined :/

AJ158d ago

You’ve got this bro 🙏🏾👊🏾

Evan158d ago

The urge is temporary

Evan158d ago

Also sex will be better if you have not had it, but be honest about that stuff once you have overcome it. My advice is don’t do hook up culture ever like find a real one that loves you but detox fully the longest you can

Donald158d ago

Try to keep a rubber band around your wrist and everytime you think of watching porn, a porn site, or porn star snap it against your wrist so it hurts. Eventually you’ll have a bad feeling about porn before you do it because you’ll associate it with the pain of the rubber band

Evan158d ago

You gotta go on a run or something hard like a cold shower everytime that urge comes, it’ll help bloodflow to the brain and help with self discipline too

Evan158d ago

No I promise that it gets better. Think of urges like urges to do x drug when addicted. It gets way better with time, the first month is hell. I would also advice to stay off socials for 6 months no matter what and have a blocker and make the password something u do not know. If you can and allowed Change the dns on router to a porn free dns. It helps a lot and it’s a pain in the ass to do it so it’s less likely you relapse. Have faith in yourself. You can do it, I’ve come to Jesus for help and become more Christian and that’s helped me too! Just remember the pain of staying the same is worse than the pain of change. That’s true for everything in life, for example I’m a little overweight now like 30 lbs and I told myself I’m changing that now. You got this bro, the feeling of being better and healing is good. Exercise helps you also

Scott158d ago

I should also add that when I went online to view the content I did it out of curiosity as well but didn’t engage with it just viewed it as if it were soft porn and thankfully I snapped back before it led me to viewing it fully and engaging in it and ultimately relapsing. STILL 13 DAYS NO FAP 🙏🏼

Pedro Israel 158d ago

just chill bro, 14 days are not 90 days, you will change.

Scott158d ago

Thanks bro I really appreciate that, I’m just afraid that my mind won’t improve and will have this filth and these fetishes stuck with it even if I never fall to the physical urges again. I feel as if I gained the strength to fight the physical urges but how do I do that with the mental (hopefully that made sense)

Evan158d ago

My only question is. Is the pain you’re dealing with worse than changing? If it is you will suffer short term of changing than staying in this hole. You can do it

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