Being uncut

I am so thankful for your honesty, James. I’ve had honest conversations about porn but never discussion on the shame and insecurities i’ve felt (and have gotten off to). I am super thankful. I don’t have a GF and have never had one, but I am hoping one day that loving and trusting relationship can peel back those deep layers of insecurity. I appreciate your honesty, it’s not perfect but it’s real and it’s growth— that’s beautiful. I am a recent convert to Christianity!

@Brad. For me, my girlfriend has been a massive help, despite the fact she knows very little about my addiction. I have told her about my insecurities about being uncircumcised, and I have been open about wanting her to praise me for it. We’ve been together for 3 years, and slowly over time she has been helping to rewire that part of my brain while we have sex. I still have issues with degradation, but it was mainly around the fact that I was watching. I became addicted to being shamed over the voyeurism of porn, “videos of women telling me how dirty and piggish it is to watch them”, and I’m only now starting to break that through this journey of quitting. All the best to you brother. If you believe in God, find him.

i’m also straight but used degradation porn in the past and got addicted to it. How have you overcame it / found confidence ?

Thank you guys. And @Angelica, this is something I have come to realise over time. Most girls I have been with prefer it, and my girlfriend loves my foreskin, so I feel very appreciated. It was something I struggled with for a long time, but have slowly worked to unlearn. I know porn addiction is a predominantly male problem, so I would love to hear about your journey if you feel comfortable enough to post. Thank you guys.

I think uncircumcised is better than circumcised in terms of feel if that makes it better in any way (I’m a girl)

Uncut gang ftw, we go that extra protective layer

You are recognized brother, keep strong