Question for the females

and our society doesn’t help either, we live in a sex obsessed porn addicted society and hookup culture. No one values true authentic emotional love anymore it feels like

porn is destructive for everyone. It makes it seem like that is what sex is when in reality it’s not, it distorts love and porn is not love at all. It’s not even just the physical aspect but emotional and how a porn addiction really messes up your brain and the way we think. It’s horrible for our mental health. I’ve struggled with this since I was sadly exposed to it when I was 14 years old and I’m now 24. I’ve never been in a relationship and I’m working so hard on myself with the help of Jesus to be completely freed from this sin and strengthen my walk with Him even more so I’m fully prepared for marriage in the future. I don’t want to bring this into any relationship! I want to stay holy and pure for my future husband and I would hope my future husband would do the same for me. We are not perfect and we trip and fall but we need to actively be running from this sin! That’s why I use covenant eyes, and passwords in my screen time so I don’t end listening to audio porn, it’s so bad that I go to that and I don’t want to anymore

I am in a long term relationship for about 8 months now. Me and my boyfriend both have porn addictions and unfortunately, it’s a life long thing. I’ve noticed it in him, especially when something triggers him. He’ll be on his phone more, he’ll get quick to anger easier, etc. But this is just his reactions to it, everyone is different. I knew my boyfriend watched porn when we first got together, but he said he didn’t watch it a lot. But I slowly realized he might have an addiction and I talked to him about it. In my opinion, porn dehumanizes all of us in one way or another. Porn puts a very high expectation on men to perform and have the biggest member and last the longest. But there is also a lot of human sex trafficking for more woman then men in the porn industry. Porn tells woman to have huge, fake breasts and to basically fake orgasms. And when you get fed these things from a very young age, it starts to become an expectation for yourself and others. Also, in porn, women are often depicted as objects to be used.

I’ve not yet committed to a long term relationship, because I’ve been entrenched in this sin for most of my adult life, and despite desperately wanting to get married- I’m not dragging this kind of addiction into a marriage, nor would I want to marry into that. So I don’t have a lot of input in terms of ‘what have I noticed while dating’, but I’ve certainly been able to see PA in a few male acquaintances and coworkers of mine. I pick up on those red flags extremely fast, and really you can tell a lot about a guy with the way he interacts with church, accountability, guarding his eyes in public, how he treats women (and especially women who aren’t classically attractive), how he hides his phone, or even just openness about his sin in general. And yes, I’d agree porn is largely more destructive toward women. (Not that men aren’t victims of porn industry as well) but statistically the amount of porn that includes violence towards women (hitting, slapping, choking, bondage, etc) is extremelyyyyy high. Even in young users. So it’s creating an entire generation of people (men) that expect real sex to look violent, aggressive and abusive. Women being weaker vessels will inevitably get the bad end of that deal.