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I feel like a fucking failure

Day 0
by Anonymous
168 upvotes

I legitimately hate myself, and it’s getting to the point of suicidal thoughts. I hate myself more than anyone I’ve ever known. I fail at everything, and I know talking to myself like this isn’t good for me, but guess what? I fail to talk to myself sparingly as well. I’ve tried stopping the negative self talk and I fail at that every time. I’ve tried quitting porn and I fail at it every time. The most I’ve made it is 3 weeks but then I fall right back in and am back to doing it every day. I don’t know what to fucking do anymore. I don’t usually curse, but I’m honestly tired of this shit. I’m not going to give up. It’s not in my nature to do so, but I also feel like I can’t win either. It’s like a constant torture. My mind won’t let me quit and it also won’t let me win. I would’ve killed myself already but I know God and my family would be hurt, and I don’t want to hurt them anymore. Idk. Idk what else to say, or what else to do. I just feel lost. Any advice is good advice be hard on me if you think necessary. I’d rather hear the truth than some sugar coating.

Comments (11)
Critical175d ago

If u go from doing it’s every day to every week it’s progress, try stretch the gap more and more, like I feel the same as you but if I can get to the point when it’s maybe once every 2 weeks I’d be happy with that, also if u know for a fact that your on your phone or computer and your not actually doing anything important turn it off or go on air plane mode and sit in boredom, the boredom is shit but eventually you find productive things to do with your time

Coltin Fitch178d ago

Use it as motivation, you know how you will feel after you watch porn. Write it down everyday and remind yourself. You know how much it makes you hate yourself. Just remind yourself

Dylon Riley178d ago

I can promise you my friend that if there’s a God in which yes truly believe he’s real in mind and spirit he wouldn’t be letting you through them pearly gates after leaving like that. It’s always a selfish decision especially over something insignificant as porn and masturbation. Just get yourself an accountability partner who can restrict from anything that provokes you and go speak with a professional who can guide you on your journey through life.

Dylon Riley178d ago

I’d like to correct you Micael suicide is an eternal problem over a long lasting solution

Derrick McNeal178d ago

You having the courage to go 3 weeks and to continue the fight after slipping is progress in itself of you improving. Lean on God not on yourself or your own understanding of things. Learn your patterns and habits and environments that you slip up in. Keep coming to this community and if you have a church or friends and family that will hold you accountable lean on them for support as well. You got this, your journey is inspiring, keep fighting you mighty warrior. That’s what you are. A warrior and an overcomer.

Tom178d ago

Imma keep it real with you. Thinking about suicide over something like this is top 3 stupidest things you could possibly do. No part of this should be making you want to be suicidal, no matter how hard it is. This is something you can conquer, something you can control. You need discipline, and unfortunately that comes through trial and error. Next time you think about bringing out porn, re read this. Remember how low you felt and use that to motivate you to get out and do something positive. My suggestion? Hit the weight room. Go do cardio. Become the most beautiful version of yourself and reap the benefits. I believe in you man, no matter if you can’t believe in yourself.

Micael178d ago

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem

Gavin178d ago

Brother, I suggest you pray about your struggles and ask God to help you. When it comes to sin, God is going to be the strength you need to rely on, your strength alone can’t make it. Yes you could be strong but some sins, especially sexual sin need to be taken to God and asking and praying to him for strength and perseverance to overcome it. Jesus is with you brother and he’s waiting for you to pray to him and ask him into this situation. May God bless you with all your needs to overcome the devil working in you life!

Dre178d ago

Even though I don’t know who you are outside of this message, I just want you to know that I see you bro. I understand your thoughts to the greatest degree that I can as someone who has also had similar mental struggles. I want you to know that you are striving for greatness but greatness doesn’t come easy. I can guarantee that your vision of the most successful version of you is not a man who talks bad about himself and hates himself even more when he doesn’t accomplish his goals overnight. Keep at it brother! You are on a good path but the loathing will not be able to make it with you on this journey. The Lord is watching you attempt and he likes that but just know that the Lord is all about love and the enemy is all about hate! Do not be fooled by the enemy, ask the Lord how he can love a sinner as you are. Please keep going, I’m sending my love brother!❤️🙏🏼

Mike178d ago

Brodie don’t let this get the best of you man. This is the devil creating these suicidal ideations. All of us here are going through this too. I’ve failed and relapsed plenty of times as well. Keep fighting and keep coming back stronger. If you keep relapsing try to make your new streak longer than the last. I strongly encourage staying prayed up at all times and do certain activities that takes your mind away from it, like the gym. Keep fighting dawg, your life is way too precious to take it away. I’m praying for you man. Get the streak going back up again!

Timothy Johnson178d ago

Stop talking about yourself in a way that is not true. God does not see you that way. THE WORK IS DONE AND FINISHED AT THE CROSS. You go to church? Are you in community?

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