I relapsed 3 times before I understood this…
Immediately before or after relapsing it’s always easy to say that this was the last time, that now you will lock in, until you feel the urges again. You have to realise that you’re weak minded. I read some many posts about guys having „no motivation“, relapsing multiple times a day and then posting here, hoping to get a motivational hit. You are weak, if you’re waiting for motivation to solve your problems. Don’t get me wrong, I’m no better than you. I had to relapse many times to realise that you gotta put in the work when nobody’s watching. That motivation won’t get you anywhere, only discipline does. Don’t wait for motivation. Do it out of discipline. Do it because you love yourself. Do it because of God. Do it to prove yourself, that you and only you control your mind. Don’t wait for the right moment, don’t wait for motivation, don’t wait until tomorrow — because it’s not going to come.
Bro this is true but in order to have discipline you have to have something you find worth being disciplined for. a big reason a lot of guys fail is because there goal/vision isn’t clear and defined in their mind. So when the temptations come and all you have is some weak and vague goal it isn’t going to be strong enough to win the battle. Me personally I turn it into a choice always and say smth like “I would rather have a girlfriend and be confident in public then jerk off rn” I usually say it in my head btw not outloud. Im on day 34 rn and it’s working like a charm. Also bonus tip PLEASE delete your social media there is too much temptation on there