This time was different
I have been dating this girl for the past 2 and a half years. I thought because I was in a relationship that I could fix my problem on my own. So I hid it from her and we continued on like nothing was wrong. A few months back we started having sex less often, so the addiction came back and the urges and impulses were stronger than ever. I started giving in more frequently but just kept it to myself. I thought, as long as I can still be good for her when she wants to have sex it’ll be fine, and it was until last night. I finally downloaded this app because I wanted to make a real change. I was going strong for 6 days and then gave in to the urge, I relapsed. And later that night she really wanted to have sex. We started making out, she started taking my clothes off, but I couldn’t get it up. My brain has been so messed up since porn, but this is a new low. The person I love the most in the world was right there in front of me and I couldn’t do anything. So I told her what had happened earlier in the day. She didn’t judge me, but held me closer. Idk why, but that made me feel even worse. Like I didn’t deserve someone who would be so forgiving. Like I was the worst thing in her life. But other than that, there’s just this insane emptiness that won’t go away. And it feels like hell. I don’t know how to act, what to feel or what to do. But I know porn needs to go for good. I just want to be free
Another point I forgot to make is that there is often this feeling of rejection when you try to initiate something and the other party is not interested. You can remove this from the equation of temptation by simply abstaining and choosing more fruitful forms of intimacy, which will ultimately benefit the relationship.