1st Day - Need Guidance

Incredibly insightful. Thank you very kindly for that message. Blessings.

A lot to unpack there, brother, but you’re in the right place and you’ve started. And congrats on finding someone who loves you for the whole you. Remember that - it may come in handy when you feel like beating yourself up for having fallen into this habit. It’s possible for someone to love you even when you feel unloveable. So make sure you do that for yourself. A couple of things I like to keep in mind: 1) you don’t need to do it all at once. Unwinding a habit can take time, so learn from any mistakes along the way and be patient with your progress. 2) We make our own choices. No one can make those for us. Don’t entertain the idea of choices you don’t want to make (like cheating). 3) Fear is one of the worst emotions and it’s taken me a long time to get over it. Love is better than fear and shame, so make sure you check in with yourself and others who love you whenever you feel like you might slide backwards. Choose faith/confidence over fear. You may have started the habit, but that means you can also choose to end it.