If I fap to a video my wife made me that’s not a relapse right? If I look at porn and only edge but don’t cum is that a relapse? Do I only reset the clock if I look at porn and fap to completion? What’s a relapse to you? Please no religious dogma
All of those things are technically relapses in a scientific sense. The problem with porn is it’s spiking your dopamine to extremely high levels, and then shooting your dopamine baseline to lower levels than it was before. This is what causes all the terrible symptoms of porn addiction. So viewing and porn, even if it is your spouse, and masturbating to fantasy/photos is all the same in the context of dopamine. It isn’t at all about morality. It’s strictly the fact that you need to let your brain heal by staying away from pornography and masturbation. No fap doesn’t have to be forever, but it’s wise to stop for at least 30-90 days
I will say that the sex will be significantly better for the both of you if you abstain and don't even masterbate to videos of your wife
If you're saying your wife created a sexy video for you to fap to then there's no issues there however if you personally feel like fapping in general is negatively affecting you such causing you to lose motivation to do other things then you can set that boundary for yourself. I think the main thing is communicating with your wife and understanding what you personally want for yourself as well.
From what I understand, no matter what a fap to completion with porn is a relapse. The other stuff is more up to you. I think since it’s to your wife and it’s a consensual thing, you’re in the clear. The 2nd idea is more up to you. You can so easily push yourself over the edge that I personally would consider it a relapse
Looking at porn is a relapse. If you question what you’re doing is a relapse count it as a relapse. If it’s between you and your wife that’s different. But if you play with yourself while watching porn that’s a relapse. Set your ground rules for what you think is a relapse keep them set in stone hold yourself accountable
Yo my libido is way higher than my wife’s, she’s a once a week gal, I’m an everyday want, every two days need to cum guy. The video helps to keep me from pestering her all week long until she’s horny again
Yo my libido is way higher than my wife’s, she’s a once a week gal, I’m an everyday want, every two days need to cum guy. The video helps to keep me from pestering her all week long until she’s horny again
I object to the other dude. If your wife and you love doing that kind of stuff I see ZERO issue- it’s your relationship and yall should enjoy the passion you married into.
Why the hell did you even nut on a video of your wife Brother that’s not even real love if you have such a lustful thought about your wife
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cooper has the best answer hands down 🙌🏼