I feel like I’m in Limbo
My porn addiction led me to cross a boundary with a close friend who does OF. While I was super high and not in the right state of mind, I inadvertently crossed boundaries of theirs making them super upset with me . She told me she felt hurt and betrayed. This made me realize how bad this has gotten. They’re one of my best friends and I can’t get over the fact that I did this to them. They said they just wanted space but space feels almost like another way for them to say they don’t want to be friends anymore. I have a hole inside where my friendship was. I miss them so much. I can’t let this ago
I have gone through nearly this exact same experience and understand how you feel—mad at your past self for ruining a relationship that you cherished. I don’t have many tips, since I am still working through this. Some things I have done were apologize (which I’m guessing you have done), and in my case, that friend has not responded to me and virtually ignores me. It is so hard, and I feel so guilty. I’ve learned that I need to move on—he doesn’t want me in his life anymore. (Also, I’m not gay and didn’t ask him for anything sexual—that’s why I said “nearly”—but nonetheless, you described the situation perfectly.) I hate doing it, but I’ve tried getting rid of his presence, like unfollowing him on social media, which helped me stop thinking about him as much. I would think about him and become depressed and angry at myself for what I had done. I really hope you can reconnect with your friend. I think a good sign is that you admit what you did was wrong or stupid. I hope you can do what I wasn’t able to do.