Self Blame?

Thanks guys! ❤️

Hey man! Long story short, don’t be ashamed of the person you’ve been. Let me tell you something about drugs. Most people with an addiction started it with an independent decision. It doesnt matter if the circumstances made it available, if stress and trauma made your will weak, or if it was something done “to fit in”. The addict begins with a single dose. And with that first hit, the blame lies squarely on your shoulders. You could look for something to blame all you want, you can deflect and deny and avoid any accountability. Who are you now? I see someone who’s actively kicking an unhealthy habit. Congrats on one week sober off porn, Michael. I hope you find many more. <3

Sorry, that is huge.😂^

Well, two things I’ll mention. 1. You don’t need a reason or specific trauma to point to, in order to struggle with porn. You’re a man, in a fallen world with a sin nature. I think it’s safe to say ‘every’ single man has dealt with this to some degree. And most women. It doesn’t make you some colossal failure because you came from a 2 parent household. Don’t beat yourself up too bad. Have Grace for yourself, like you would a friend. 2. As someone with a significant amount of trauma — having a ‘reason’ doesn’t it make me feel better. Really. At this point, it’s more frustrating than anything, because despite the thousands of dollars I’ve personally spent on therapy, counseling, EMDR, etc - - I can point directly to the ‘wounds’ that are the types that result in numbing behaviors (alcohol, drugs, careless sex, porn, etc.) and I’ve not been able to overcome this completely. Kinda feels like a lose-lose situation, but I want to encourage you brother, the more research I’ve done in this area- the more hopeful I am that this addiction CAN be beaten. ✝️