The right mentality

Every time I open this app I see people stressing over “I failed on week 3” or “I feel terrible cause I only lasted 3 days.” I don’t think you should behave this way. I understand not wanting to relapse, I understand that you guys want the benefits but, I think, you seem to be going about this wrong way. When you constantly think about the days, or the benefits, you make porn to be this “forbidden fruit.” You fantasize about how “if I just don’t do this one thing then all my problems will be fixed” but when the problems aren’t immediately fixed your body goes right back to what made you feel good. You create a narrative that porn is this all powerful thing that gives pleasure in exchange for your time and life. You must realize that this isn’t at all what porn is. It’s essentially a drug that was made to profit off of you. It doesn’t give you any “pleasure” it just makes the pain go away and you’ve been hijacked. Realize, you exist in your body and are apart of it. You do have responsibility over it but also that your body has been poisoned. You are going to fail. If you make the “number of days” your identity and then it shatters you’ll end up worse than the beginning. You are the part that notices yourself, not the number of days you don’t watch porn. I can’t stress this enough, your identity is not solely based off of the number of days. It is a part of you but, if you hinge your life on it then you won’t get anywhere. Get back on your feet and try again this time do something that you know your body will like that isn’t porn. I hope this helps