Need a female perspective

Hi @Jessica! Thank you very much for perspective as well! Even just these couple replies have helped me already feel a little less worry. I’m really glad for these responses as well, as to me, entering into this with anything less than full honesty, feels wrong and not fair to the women I date, or myself even.

Woman here! As long as you are transparent and open about your situation and history, I don’t see it being a red flag. There will be woman out there who may, but I wouldn’t take it personally. A lot of us at this age can be pretty jaded or just dealing with hurt or our own type of issues. Stay open and look at it as a means of helping you sift through those that are looking for the same thing you are. The ones who are serious and that are on the same page will appreciate the work you’ve put into yourself and respect you more for it. That’s no easy feat, especially nowadays when most are so co-dependent or too scared to be alone. Keep it up and good things will follow ☺️

Thanks @Robert, honestly you’re probably right. Hi @Kathryn, thank you for your insight! I really do appreciate it! What you say about baggage makes a lot of sense, I’ve never thought about it in that framing. I think I’ve largely been thinking I should just be honest and own it, unapologetically. Honest about why, and committed to growth. And yeah lol, I probably don’t want to like put it on my dating profile or mention it unprompted on a first date or something!

Woman here. 👋🏻 Honestly, it’s not a big deal at all. In fact, it’s pretty special- I really don’t know any girls who prefer people have a lot of baggage (sounds harsh, but I don’t know how else to describe it). I probably wouldn’t start off a conversation with that and just announce it, but just be honest when it comes up. :)

If she cares about such things then you shouldn’t be pursuing her

Anyway thanks for anyone who offers their take, whatever it is and good luck as always with our shared goal of kicking this porn addiction