Confess? Did I cheat?

Do not tell your gf! This is a situation where you would likely tell her only to relieve your guilt. That’s totally unfair to her. I had training for this kind of situation as a religious lay leader on my submarine for guys who would go too far in liberty ports and wrestle with whether or not to tell their wives. In most cases, when the guy made a one time isolated mistake that he was never going to repeat, the man needed to make the decision to keep it quiet because confessing would only bring enormous pain to the wife and potentially destroy the family. Much more complicated, but that’s the gist.

Thank you (no name?) That is what I will do

@Zack, That’s why I need, forgiveness from God so I can forgive myself. I won’t tell her as she is very sensitive but if she asks, I will be honest

@John, Good point, honestly that has been bothering me as well, I am upset about that, but more upset that I entertained and asked for the price…

Thank you @Brandon I forgot to mention, I had clothes on, so there was no skin involved

Do not tell your gf. Do not go back. Do not beat yourself up, because you wouldn’t be on this app if you were not honestly trying. DO pray for forgiveness. DO establish a personal boundary that will ensure you don’t go back (ie if you’re available to go to the massage place, call your gf and make conversation. Or call a friend. Or hit the panic button on here).

If I was you I would seek forgiveness from god. Being closed to god will give you peace and will always keep you away from such places. Telling your girlfriend is your choice but it will only worsen things up since you two are already going through some stuff. I did the same mistake with my girlfriend, it was random but I did it and I wasn’t forgiving myself, so I told her and she dumped me right in the spot. It took me six months to finally let go, and it was only by getting closer to god. You didn’t not cheat if you’re asking me, your intentions were only to get a massage, but you ain’t innocent either. Talk to her about your problems and what you two go through. Sometimes women ignores to get attention and that’s their natur, but if she ignoring you because you’re no longer attracting her then I advise you to make the right decision and let go. Cause the more longer you hold on to her the more you will hurt yourself.

You put yourself in an iffy situation, were aroused, and then she sexually assaulted you & took advantage of you. Should you have been there? No. Did you do something inappropriate? Yes. However, I think it is less that you cheated and more than you were sexually assaulted and taken advantage of. She saw an opportunity and despite your saying no decided still to touch you.

Honestly, it would be unrealistic to say to tell your wife and to break up with her as she is your wife and even though you did wrong, you didn’t do anything intimate with her. She shouldn’t have touched your dick so it’s not entirely your fault, but I wouldn’t hate yourself for it as you still didn’t go through with it, it’s probably best to keep in mind to not get into those situations, you could tell your wife but just think about how that’ll effect you, if you truly regret that decision you don’t have to end things with her