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I lasted 12 days
I don’t know what’s wrong with me lol
Kobe
Do it for Kobe
Crushed Yesterday, Renewed Today
I’m tired of starting over. I’m tired of failing. I’m tired of striving for the man I want to be and never getting there. But today is a new day. Embrace your masculinity, create real relationships, love fiercely. Porn will not allow those good healthy things to flourish. And when you fail (like I have time and time again) remember that you’re not defined by your failure. Rise above and be strong brothers.
Almost there
I am officially 50% there. Well to be honest I’m 50% on this app but in real life I’m 100% I feel everything. Glory to god
LETS GOOO
LETS GOOOO
Ownership
Each time I slip up I take inventory of my feelings and what decisions led to that relapse. I experience depression, shame, emptiness. But It is just as important to take inventory of your feelings and decisions when you are having success, I feel great staying away from porn! I feel like I can be myself, I recognize the more intentional I am about what I’m doing the more control I have over my thoughts. I’ve recently relapsed after going over 100 days without pornography, satan wants me to feel like a failure but I know through Christ weak things can be made strong.
Devil's temptations
"it's not that big of a deal" "you can just look for a sec" "You've earned it" Do not fall for the trap... You know how you will feel after
yo
How long to normalize?
I’ve been having horrible mood swings, anxiety to depressed to happy to angry to numb. I’m abstaining completely, no porn or masturbation. It’s mentally and physically exhausting, so I’m wondering if there’s a general timeline for when these will settle down some.
It’s a new morning!
“But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. “The Lord is my portion,” says my soul, “therefore I will hope in him.”” Lamentations 3:21-24 ESV If you’ve fallen recently, take heart that it’s a new day. Keep moving forward!
We all got this!
Hello my fellow seekers of abstinence! Praying for all of you struggling today. I’m nearing a 4 day streak, my wife has left to go hang with a friend and being alone usually makes the urge intense. But today after a prayer asking for strength to persevere…I feel steady in my ability to overcome this! Don’t let your negative or hurtful thoughts cloud your ability to overcome any obstacle(s). God forgives you, it’s time to forgive yourself. Failure is apart of growth. Just don’t allow it to continue to be a crutch. You all got this! Love you guys! For what it’s worth, proud of you for taking steps to better yourselves!
Focus
Hey everyone, Remember - your focus is the solution. If your mindset is: “I can’t look at porn, I can’t masterbate, I can’t lust.” Youre setting yourself up to fail; lust and porn are constantly on your mind. Find a new focus, thrive in that space, and don’t give porn/lust a second of your time.
33 days
Had the urges last night but I ain’t breaking this streak
Day 4
I had a 58 day streak and blew it, this is a string come back I feel!!!
One relapse shouldn’t negate how far you’ve come
After losing a 43 day streak, I felt pretty worthless for having destroyed something instantly that took me so long to build up. But instead of dwelling on my relapse and sitting on the mindset that “if I just do it a few more times then I’ll start over,” I decided to double down on my restrictions with my phone. I’m investing in myself with this mindset. For me, normally it’s harder to motivate myself to do something like that, especially after a short streak relapse. I usually binge until I can’t anymore and then I start a streak, but that is what truly sets you back to zero. I say all of this because i noticed how this long streak gave me the mental strength not to indulge again after a relapse. After doing some “research,” I’ve found that a single relapse has minimal, temporary effects on cognition, socialization, clarity and drive in comparison to a binge. A binge will desensitize you and “reinforces the PMO habit loop, which strengthens the neural pathways associated with the behavior” (Chat gpt.) Meaning compulsive behaviors are harder to manage. Your one time relapse (especially on a long streak) is genuinely a tiny setback. Just don’t fall back in so easily. (TL;DR) The number on the streak counter is helpful but it’s not reflective of your story and all the progress you’ve built!!! Do not be discouraged! You still have the momentum to keep going!! A relapse is just a bump in the road!!!
First Week
To me, this felt like the longest shortest week ever. Some days were a breeze and others were not. It’s not the porn i’m addicted to, it’s just jerking off. I’ve noticed that i’m much more clear minded. Prayers for longevity.
Day 3
I’ve been horny since I woke up. I hit a little workout and it still won’t go away
Need advice
Since quitting porn I’ve feel like masterbation has been harder to avoid. It’s not like my phone I can leave at home and it seems like the only way to compromise. I know it does harm and I don’t know what to do about it. Does anyone have any advice on how to quit it.
Day 1
First day back, been on a bender all week. 90 days until sober!
Is it normal to feel good and bad in waves?
I'm on day 23 and for the past like week I was good feeling confident and strong. Last night I had some of the hardest urges in a while and social media didn't help ultimately tho I stayed strong. But this morning I don't feel as confident or good. It's almost like now that I know I had urges last night I don't feel good about it now even though nothing happened